Episode 83: Dating Your Spouse During Challenging Times

And when things are hard, for those of us who are married, the relationship most likely to be affected negatively by stress is the one closest to us. And everything from a dish left in the sink, to having to overhear yet another FaceTime conversation between your spouse and their mom, to an extended sigh from the other room feels like a personal attack, signaling the opening salvo of World War III. So, God created marriage. But even the first marriage in the Bible never existed outside of a dynamic relationship and connection with a God who walked intimately, and even physically, alongside that first couple in the Garden before the Fall Genesis and the resulting separation isolation from God that occurred because of sin. Even after sin entered the world, however, God continued and created conditions for humans to live in relationship with himself and with others. Starting in the innermost circle and moving outwards, humans desire relationships with a spouse, a family, a larger or extended family unit, friends, and a like-minded larger group with whom we can identify e. As we are learning through this era of social distancing, we need all of those relationships to work in harmony in order to thrive. No matter how much we love our spouse, we probably miss our siblings, parents, close friends, coworkers, and church family. And if you are anything like me, you are recognizing how much each of those relationships impacts our mental, emotional, spiritual, AND marital health.

How to Flirt With Your Wife Like You’re Still Dating

Signing up agrees to our terms of use. Dating—in person, online or blind—is prized in our culture, and most of us think of dating to be an important part of any meaningful, romantic relationship. Whether casual or glamorous, expensive or on a budget, we intuitively know that dating is a central way to get to know someone, win his or her heart and build a romance. Marriage is meant to be an earthly picture of Christ and the Church, a relationship that points to the love and affection between Jesus and His people.

Here are some of the reasons we all need to continue to date our spouses after we say our vows at the altar:. Making time to date one another in a season of life that is very busy and shows no signs of slowing down any time soon is a powerful gift you can offer your spouse.

Somewhat taken aback, I stopped walking and said, “Your writing a book on how to date my wife?” He laughed and assured me that it wasn’t.

No more excuses for you not to get out together as a couple! As I surveyed women about their marriages, the one thing that was absolutely, without fail the most mentioned advice was keep the date nights! Yes, it is hard, but our priorities indicate that even with small children , busy schedules, and lack of ideas we should still make every effort to ensure that we are spending quality one-on-one time together.

To be transparent, Mark and I have always struggled with making date nights a priority. Our entire marriage has been made up of one transition after another. Birthed a baby. Now another one. Housed a twenty year old. Served as community coordinators for an apartment complex. Lost a fish. Killed a few plants. And picked up photography.

Just to name a few things. The point is, in all of that craziness, date nights easily fall by the wayside.

Pursuing Your Wife: Developing a “Date Your Wife” Mindset

One day I woke up and suddenly felt distant from my husband. In between his firefighter and paramedic school demands and the demands of raising our son and taking care of our home, I realized it had been months since we went on a date. We always seemed to make an excuse for not going on dates … money was too tight, we waited too last minute to find a babysitter, or we would rather just stay in.

While the distance felt sudden, it took months and months to happen because we were no longer making each other a priority. When I stopped dating my spouse, things slowly spiraled out of control—our communication, our affection, and our authenticity.

Dating Your Spouse “Nothing replaces genuine friendship between spouses.” -​Ryan Frederick “Your spouse is a gift you never stop unwrapping.” -Ryan.

Make a commitment to a weekly date. Below are some ideas that go beyond the usual dinner and a movie. Many involve little or no cost. Not all dates have to involve going out, but if you have young children, getting a break from the kids is a stress release in itself. Getting a babysitter, however, can be a burden. Alternate who gets the sitter and develop a pool of sitters.

Every marriage has challenges. The good news is there are many dedicated staff willing to work with you and your spouse How can you show humility to your family today? For Your Marriage is here to support you! Marriage: Unique for a Reason. Throughout www. USCCB assumes no responsibility for these websites, their content, or their sponsoring organizations.

10 Principles For Christian Dating That Will Transform Lives

The examples go on! This problem is not uncommon among otherwise happily married couples. Dates should be fun! Sometimes we just need reminders for how to keep them that way. Today we discussed exactly that!

Emily Jensen and Laura Wifler agree that a date night can be a wonderful thing, Many of us have the freedom to select a spouse who matches our His truths​—the ones that command us to love one another as Christ loved.

Joey Cochran. Dating your wife is a mindset. On the contrary, it is constant thought and action, and building this mindset requires reflection and initiative. Ultimately, dating your wife is a mindset of worship and service. But even before you take initiative and lead your wife in worship and service during your dates, you must first reflect on your dating mindset. After all, your efforts produced great fruit here, so you must have done something right.

Date Ideas for Married Couples

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Show her your love by making sacrifices to keep those date nights alive. God’s word calls you to love your wife as Christ loved the church and.

It is time for Christians to start talking about dating. The trajectory of lives and eternities are in the balance. Yes, I am. This issue shapes our young people, friends, and family more than we could ever imagine. We have been passive too long. Establishing principles for Christian dating will set men and women on a course towards Christ-centered marriages. Laying out guidelines for dating as followers of Jesus will alter lives by keeping people out of toxic and unhealthy relationships and ultimately marriages.

42 Date Night Ideas for the Date Night Challenged

Author: Brittany Ann. When we were newlyweds nearly 13 years ago, my husband had some really firm expectations. In particular, he insisted that we would go on a date every Saturday night. Not that I was opposed to the idea I mean, who would be? Looking back, I am so thankful for his wisdom and his dedication to setting good habits in our relationship, from the very beginning.

The author is pushing the agenda of Christianity over the concept of dating your wife in my opinion. The author also reiterates many passages from the Bible.

But it can make any marriage feel, well, stale. You need to re-learn how to show your playful, appreciative , and affectionate side. You need to flirt. Shadeen Francis, a marriage and family therapist based in Philadelphia, agrees. So, how do you build up those reflexes again? Here, with help from Francis and Greene is a refresher course in flirting. And occasionally contradictory. What else would you expect? An easy way to do that is to build your wife up in front of others.